What lights the fire of this cozy sweet life of yours? 

We are creatures who seek comfort in so many ways, naturally, habitually. In this changing of the seasons now as the leaves dance in colors and we flow into November, let us honor this instinct to draw inward and to self-soothe. Get sweet with yourself and find those things that help you feel nurtured. 

We are creatures who seek comfort in so many ways, naturally, habitually. In this changing of the seasons now as the leaves dance in colors and we flow into November, let us honor this instinct to draw inward and to self-soothe. Get sweet with yourself and find those things that help you feel nurtured. 

Have you heard of the Scandanavian term “hygge”? It’s lovely!

Hygge reflects a cultural draw in Denmark to a sense of comfort, simplicity, warmth and drawing in a sense of community to your life. It is a concept that can encompass many principles of personal happiness and delight and is different for each person. It’s about savoring in the charm of simple pleasures of life year-round, but especially as the nights get longer and colder. So into this! 

2020 has brought us an unbelievable amount of twists and turns, many of us finding that our nervous systems are on high alert to the stresses of change, uncertainty and isolation. It’s collective and real. It’s easy to normalize on some level but this is really an important time for us to focus inward in a new way.

Now more than ever, we have an opportunity to learn to self-soothe and find great benefit to our bodies, our spirits, our health and overall well-being. I love drawing from the gentleness of hygge and finding your own creative way to settle your spirit. 

My 8-year-old son and I recently moved into a sweet new home in a quiet neighborhood. After the stresses of this year in general, my soul needs nourishing and calm. Starting with a fresh, empty home has brought me so many ideas about how to create and fill my space with a sense of connection to ME. What do I love to do? How do I find rest?

I am setting up my resting areas in special places around the house where I can look out and see trees, sit by the space heater fireplace (even fake fires are relaxing :), sip some rose tea and dig into a freshly downloaded novel. I’m making space for my son to dive into dark afternoon Lego projects. I’m finding ways for us to get creative together with puzzles and crafts that help us feel connected as a little family. Also… I have the BEST bathtub with the HOTTEST water that has already brought me incredible amounts of  joy. My last home I had to boil five kettles of water to even get excited about a bath. Low light, music, hot water. Thank you, universe! 

So… let’s hear it for what is cozy for you? How do you rest and self-soothe?

Happy sweet times to you ahead, my friends.  I’m grateful to be here with you. 

Love you all with all with my big, open heart,

Katy

Hi honey, I hear you. This week has been a little brutal here in Seattle. The air is clear now. We are wearing masks, staying in, staying away. And guess what?! Here comes the rain. And that’s okay. Sigh.

It’s just okay!

Oh my gosh, if you had told any of us that the pandemic would not just be this two week blip of an inconvenient shut down… we would have flipped out entirely.

Here we are and we are still kicking. Aren’t we? Aren’t we just amazing animals that can adapt and flex and here we frigging are?!? Still here.

How have you fared?

I have swam through the waters of so many shifts and life changes in these last months. I feel so far from the old life I had back in February 2020 that felt honestly,  a little too fast, a little disconnected, a bit too full of FOMO and making WAY too many things happen in this one simple and easy life I’ve got here.

In April, I watched the huge Maple tree in my backyard bloom, noticing it for the first time in ten years. TEN YEARS!

In May, I decided to pivot the way that I do my business entirely and signed up for some incredible classes that will change the way I work with clients.

In June, I let go of all of my summer plans for good. I melted into the struggle. Summer with full time kiddo, no camps, no plans was a little rough.

In August, I found small ways to make my summer feel like a summer after-all.

It’s FALL! I can’t believe it. I’m feeling like… my body is slightly traumatized and still in high alert and at the same time, I feel way tougher. I feel way more flexible and I feel like my life is permanently simplified. Because I was forced to full stop for a while. I really didn’t realize how high I was revving before, flying through life.

So now… I want to take it slow. I want to give my nervous system some time to calm down. To be sweet and still. To sink into whatever rhythms and routines I can that feel nurturing, loving and slow. I’m learning to befriend myself.

What works for you?

Did you know that you are actually the one who knows your body the very best?

In countless hours I have spent with my clients who are experiencing pain, I see people who are coming to terms with being the one who is actually in charge of thier own healing. There’s a weight to that. It can feel like a lot to manage and deal with, especially managing the emotional aspects of this. Yes, there are absolutely doctors and plans and programs for your health. It starts of course, with having a wise and comprehensive health care team of advisors and people who can accurately asess and problem solve with you. I love when I see people tackling pesky, chronic issues with their health from a variety of angles. Here in Seattle, we are blessed with a culture of wellness and the number of providers and alternative health practitioners is quite awesome. You can start with one great referral, ask around and ask lots of questions, learn to trust your gut and go from there,  one step at a time.

I have seen clients with chronic neck pain, nerve pain, low back pain… so many issues that feel like they have a clear beginning but no real timeline of progress that you can hold on to.  There are things that work and things that work for just a bit. There are appointments and exercises, stretches, new approaches and self-care to dos. How do you manage all of this without getting overwhelmed and discouraged? You feel like who is actually in charge with the right answers and how are we going to fix this thing?!?!

To start, I would propose that coming at this from a place of peace can help in every way. What does this even mean? Well, as out-of-your-hands as healing can often feel, what is in your hands? You, my friend, are in charge of your inner environment, your perspective, your sense of self and what it feels like to be you in this body. You know this, noone else. Your experience is deep and informed for what it is like to be you. What can we work with here?

I would invite you to look at your healing and look at some of the beliefs around your pain and healing. Write them down. Be real. This pain frigging sucks because…. get it all out. Do you feel like this will never end? Do you feel like you were lead astray? Are you pissed that you can’t play your sport or even get through the day comfortably? Are you blaming yourself? Do you feel betrayed by your body?  GET. IT. OUT. Listen and observe. Write it down and take a look at the situation your mind is in, the subconscious that is at play all day here in the background. So tough. I’m so sorry that it is hard and it’s so good to give yourself a hug of compassion for that. Like, REALLY. Be kind to yourself for what you are going through, the losses, the complications and stress and costs.

Next, can you find a place of nuture for yourself that feels warm, comfortable, quiet, still? If you meditate regularly, you are familiar with this space but sometimes we get so stuck in our heads its hard to turn the noise down. We forget the noise is on full volume sometimes. Can you sit even in your car before you open the door and get out… wherever you can give yourself a mini-break to tune in. Take a big fat breath, really, really deep breath.

Now with your hand on your heart, say:

I am in pain. I am feeling down (insert:  angry, mad, stressed, bummed, etc) about this.  

Everyone feels pain. Everyone feels down at times.

It’s okay to feel pain. It’s okay to feel down. 

Give yourself a few breaths in this still space that you’ve created where it’s okay to be human. It’s okay to feel flawed and down and out and hopeless. Injury is hard. Recovery is hard. Maybe this is all you need is a little love for a sec.

AND… then if you’re up for it…

In this space,  see if there is another way of looking at this. What are you willing to let go of here?  Yes, it totally sucks when your body can’t do what it wants to do comfortably. Look at the beliefs you stated before all of that suff that’s under the surface about this pain. Is there anything that you’re ready to release? What thoughts and beliefs about this situation can just go? Take a few deep breaths and see if that is possible. Breathing deeply, notice the thought for a moment and release it into the ethers. Breathe it out and let it go. Are there any shifts with that releasing?

If you sit with how your body is, just is in this moment, where can you find acceptance?

Can you find areas of your body to simply observe the sensations without any labels, judgement or trying to change it?

Are there any benefits that you’ve gleaned from this injury, any hidden gems from this path that you didn’t intend to be on?

Can you let go of any expectations, find more patience, less grip on the timeline?

You might try this and just see where it takes you. I have been fascinated with the transformations that have happened in myself with this type of self-compassion. This here is my hug to you, oh dear one who is suffering at times within this ol’ bag of bones. Our bodies are so amazing, dynamic, magical. Your body will appreciate every ounce of compassion that you send to it and the heart housed within. BIG HUGS to you!

Love, Katy

So, I am big on lists. Here’s a list of things I love to do for myself, things that make me feel healthy and happy. Things that when I do them, I think: Dang, thank you, Katy. You are such an awesome friend to me (yourself. myself. you get it).

See if any of these hit you in your heart:

• Reading on the beach at sunset (had to lead with the picture caption)
• Getting a massage (had to follow with a plug for my business)
• Going to sleep early (this is totally new to me. I still kind of hate it but it always feels good to have done it)
• Waking up and having some time to drink my coffee and journal, meditate, stare at the magnificent morning weather (I crave this every morning)
• To really be present with my mind, my senses, my intentions just right here and now. Even for 5 seconds.
• Doing exercise that feels really, really fun. I recently rediscovered hula-hooping! Its very fun and silly.
• Going to see a great healing practitioner on a good recommendation. I’ve recently enjoyed acupuncture that blew my mind, totally shifted me.
• Listening to really inspiring podcasts, teachers, TED talks, audio books in the evenings or while I’m driving.
• Seeking community out and making the effort to show up to things that I’d love to be effortlessly a part of eventually. Community is rich and amazing. It’s out there if you need it ever.
• Simplifying my house and getting rid of so much crap!
• Keeping my house tidy… somehow this has evolved into my pretty often habit and it feels quite peaceful. I used to drive myself mad with clutter tornadoes until I realized that it paralleled the state of my mind. Tidy=calm mind? Sometimes?
• Stretching at night, even 5 minutes. It feels like the opposite of coffee in the morning.
• Leaving my devices off in the evenings. I do not do this ever. But it sounds like a really good idea!
• Practicing surrender, gratitude, mindfulness and embracing ME as being exactly as I am right now. Huge life concepts boiled down to to one run-on sentence. This is my work.

What do you think? Make your own list (even in your head) and see what you come up with!